Maybe blame falls under anger in the five stages of grief. I personally think blame should be listed between anger and bargaining and it should be called the SIX stages of grief.Blaming happens all the time when someone dies suddenly. People almost instantly start pointing fingers. Sometimes people do blame the deceased for their choices, but often we blame others. I’m not sure why we feel it necessary to assign blame, but we need to talk about it more often to help people come up with healthier ways to cope with their grief.